Playing Big

What does “playing big” mean to you?

Is it starting your own business?

Is it pursuing a creative outlet, like creating art?

Is it making a systems change within your current work environment?

Is it getting up the courage to make a presentation in front of a group of colleagues?

Is it moving your child with special needs to their neighborhood school?

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The Words That Stopped Me In My Tracks

We were hiking with 2 of Sabrina’s friends when I heard the words.

We had stopped to take a snack break. Sabrina was hoarding the can of Pringles, and we were all laughing about how she had pushed her friend’s hand away when the friend tried to get in the can (Sabrina’s can, apparently). As we laughed, Sabrina’s sister gave her a huge hug. And then heard the words.

“Sabrina, you are so loved.”

I stopped what I was doing and looked up and just stared. I stared at her friend’s face, the one who said it. She was looking at Sabrina with a huge smile on her face. I looked at her other friend’s face, and it was completely unmoved, like those words had been casual words, and nothing out of the ordinary. I looked at Sabrina, who was nonchalantly chomping away at her Pringles, unaware of how huge those words were. Then I looked at my younger daughter’s face, Sabrina’s little sister. She too was staring at the friend who said it. I could tell it made an impact on her. She looked back at Sabrina, and then gave her another hug.

Those words had a big impact on me. I flashed back to 3.5 years ago, before Sabrina was at our neighborhood school, and how the thought of hearing something like that from one of Sabrina’s typical classmates would have been a complete dream.

Sabrina’s sister and I talked about it later, and she repeated the words to Sabrina. “Mama, she said ‘Sabrina, you’re so loved’! It was so sweet!” They had a big impact on her, too.

This is why I love sending Sabrina to school every day. Because Sabrina is building a little community of kids who see what a sweet little soul she is. A community of kids who know her, who warmly greet her in the morning and say “Come on, Sabrina, let’s stand in line together.” A community of kids who are excited about and proud of her accomplishments, no matter how small.

Isn’t that what any parent wants for their child?

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They said…

…that you would work in the back of the classroom, isolated from the class…

…that you wouldn’t have any friends and that the other children wouldn’t relate to you…

…that you would be overwhelmed and would hate going to school…

…that you don’t notice what’s going on around you and therefore wouldn’t benefit to being around other kids…

…that you wouldn’t be engaging in anything meaningful…

…that after 3 years in a self-contained classroom you were just starting to respond to your peers reaching out to you, and that putting you in an inclusive setting with more demands would hinder that “progress”…

…that because you don’t have very much verbal ability, that you wouldn’t be able to participate in presentations, etc….

… that you wouldn’t be embraced and the other children wouldn’t want you in the classroom…

…that you wouldn’t be able to participate in the general education curriculum…

Remember Sabrina, don’t ever let anyone’s ignorance and assumptions limit you!

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Portfolios

“Her portfolio is her marketing package.”

That’s what someone in the field of inclusion just recently told me.

Yes!

I’m spending some time working on Sabrina’s portfolio today. She’s had one for about a year now, but I’m updating it and adding more information about her recently activities and sports, and adding a section for the future.

Sabrina’s portfolio highlights who she is, and what she can do and accomplish. It explains how people can help support her. And it explains the high expectations we have for what she can accomplish and who she can continue to be.

Now that she’s in school, it’s used to introduce her to new teachers and staff. It’ll be used to show what she can accomplish in an inclusive setting. It’ll be used during various transitions, to show our expectations for her life.

Does your child or the child you support have a portfolio?

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Happy Birthday, Dr. Suess!

Receiving this message from Sabrina’s teacher today made my day and made me teary.

“In honor of Dr Suess’ birthday today, I knew Sabrina loved his books and knew the words, so she was a star. She read a Dr Suess book to the class and everyone clapped for her! She did a beautiful job!”

Thank you, Ms. Morgan!

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